Virginity: A Must read for everyone.

By A Fan :- Narmada 🙂

Virginity – A Question On Girls’ Morality – Youth Blog of
India –
“Are you pure?” asked the guy who came to see Seema for
marriage. “Pure????” Seema couldn’t get his question.
“Pure as in untouched?” he clarified. Seema now
understood what he wanted to ask. “What are you looking
for a girl to marry or ghee?” she replied agitated by such a
question. He was shocked at such a reply, but before he
could say anything. Seema continued, “Well you can say if
there was an exam about ‘purity’ I wouldn’t top it!” His
family left. Next day he rang up Seema’s dad and told him
that he cannot marry Seema as she is a girl with low
morals. Bang on! Welcome to the progressive India where
we claim to be modern people but still make Virginity a
base to check a girl’s morals or her capability to become a
good wife. Today when we claim that women have an
equal status in the society with that of men, we still are
under the orthodox views of using a white bed sheet on the
first night of marriage just to check the bride’s virginity!!!
The guy may himself have slept with number of girls but he
wants a “pure”, “untouched” girl as a wife. Why? Answer-
just to satisfy his male ego that the girl he is going to
spend his life with has been and will be only his
“possession”. If today a girl loses her virginity with a guy
she loves truly but the guy turns out to be a cheat then she
is tagged as a “slut”, “characterless girl” ; MIND YOU these
being the most decent words I can pen down ,else there
are a million more worse words in our mother tongue
vocabulary. I ask what is the mistake of the girl? She
loved a guy? She slept with someone she thought she
would marry? Or, she now has lost her purity which would
satisfy her to-be husband’s male ego and make him
believe that she is fit to be his wife! And again no answers
I could get! I completely support the fact that we Indians
should not give up on our morals and accept everything
that westernisation gives us but I wonder how can a
biological wall in the girl’s body by breaking decide the
level of her morals? I mean Seema could have been a
great wife, she was marrying the guy her parents chose,
maybe she had a bad past… But all that was seen was that
she wasn’t pure! L And I am forced to wonder that what
would happen to those rape victims? Who would marry
those girls? Moreover a girl from a sports background,
has always been told by those orthodox distant relatives
to Quit it, why? because playing may result in breakage of
the “moral wall”!! “ “Urggghhh ”, that’s what I have always
thought after hearing that!! Yes, I am also a girl, an Indian
girl, who values her morals, for whom her “izzat” is
priceless, who has always dreamt of her “raajkumar”
coming on a white horse to marry her, and who has
always planned her wedding dress! But I am also a girl
who belongs to the globalised world, interacts with the
opposite sex, loves, has break ups, overcomes them and
smiles again and no one has a right to tag me any thing
for that reason! I just request you that next time you go
looking for a girl for marriage, search for a true heart and
not something like “pure ghee”, because she ‘s gonna be
your life partner and not your meal to satisfy your hunger
of ego. When you look at a beautiful girl coming dressed in
a red lehanga leaving her world behind, to become a part
of your world, accept her, make her life a bed of roses
rather than testing her loyalty by making her lay down on
a bed with white bed sheet because true love will make
your marriage successful, her “purity” won’t.
Forward dis message if you respect it! Now most of you ll send it only to girls if you are a gal and vice versa.plz send it to all guys we may awaken the world dat a gal is not just doormat..but a being of substance..But you know whats that…if u dont forwrd to all.. just another way of gender discrimination. Its upto you.
Don’t judge the sender, that person is just making a step forward to build a positive India.. So that we can proudly say we are proud to be indians !


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